Open the Door to Love

“We are required to open our hearts at the precise moment every instinct urges us to shut them down. I can stand for hurt and being a martyr – or I can stand for something greater.”

- Mary Morissey

How often we find ourselves wanting to shut out Love after a nasty, or unexpected, break up. We agree with our friends that, “There aren’t any good men/women left. I’m destined to be single forever. I’m a total failure when it comes to relationships”. We buy into their negativity, as we sink deeper into our misery.

Yet, it’s at that exact moment of wanting to shut down, that we are to rather choose to stand for something greater. To open our hearts to Love. To look, with faith, beyond our seeming ‘loss’ toward the arrival of our ‘One’.

So, how do you do this? Here are a few suggestions:

• Remember that the Universe will never meet you halfway, and this is simply another step on the path to  your ‘One’. There is a lid for every pot. Nothing can keep your soulmate from you.

• Take nothing personally. You are wonderful just the way you are, and your soulmate won’t be able to see past you! Continue loving and reminding yourself what a catch you’ll be for your ‘One’.

• There’s no such thing as rejection. He/she wasn’t your ‘One’. Otherwise you’d still be together.

• Take your focus off the past, and its pain, and turn your attention rather to what you want in a relationship. As Michael Beckwith wrote: “Learn to take your attention away from what you don’t want, and all the emotional charge around it, and place the attention on what you wish to experience. Energy flows where attention goes.”

• Write yourself a Love Intention. For example: “I am a magnet to Love” or “I am open and receptive to my One” or “I welcome my soulmate now”. Keep your written intention nearby. Read it every time you find yourself feeling despondent or a failure.

• Give yourself positive self-talk. Be compassionate, kind, and validating to yourself. Give yourself at least 3 compliments a day! When you are beautiful in your own eyes, there will be a twinkle in your eye, and a confidence in you that others will find irresistible.

As you work through these suggestions you’ll notice a change in your thinking and behaviour. It’s not a luxury or ‘good luck’ to have love in your life. It’s a human need and you have been created to receive and give love. You’ll be surprised how quickly love can happen as you open your heart to your ‘One’.

Love to you!

Avril

Raising the Bar for Love

The way that you think about love determines what you get.  So when someone tells me, “I just want a nice man [or woman],” I ask them to increase their expectations. Just wanting a “nice man” can sniff of desperation and compromise. Love is not an arena that responds well to either. Settling is not necessary and won’t get your happy ending.

I recommend believing that you can have exactly what you want, a person who has the qualities that you desire and with whom you have crackling chemistry. Nothing less should do!

And even if there is no one in sight, even if you have disappointing dating experiences, this is no predictor of your future because you are not limited to your past. You can have high hopes for love, even when nothing is yet showing.

Upping Your Vibration: Here are some tips to raise your bar and pull yourself to the level of attracting your soulmate and nothing else

• Do anything you can to eradicate desperation and inspire hope in your heart
• Spend time every day imagining the person who would be right for you, how great your relationship will be, what they love about you and your life together
• Eradicate negative language from your dating vocabulary. No more: “dating sucks in this town,” “every woman in this town is a gold-digger,” “every man in this town is a player” or “I only attract losers.” Instead, say “I know my soulmate is on her way,” and don’t get negative when talking with friends about love
• While giving people a reasonable chance (because attraction tends to grow over time), feel free to say “no” to anything that is not right or feels like settling.This includes letting go of anyone from your past with whom you feel incomplete
• Be on the lookout for soulmates and happy couples as an example of what you can expect

When you notice you’re feeling down about love, keep this list to remind you of how to get beyond the negativity. Work on raising your sights, and you’ll be surprised how quickly love will happen as the Universe responds to your new energy!

Kathryn Alice, RScP teaches workshops all over the world on love. A licensed spiritual counselor, she led a crisis support team for six years. She is frequently published on this subject, and has led many to their love.